Online vs. Real life
So I've been wondering how one goes from an online friendship to a real friendship. Has anyone done it? Is there an easy transition to make? To be honest I've done this a couple of times and it always feel so foreign.
One friend I had never spoken to until she showed up at my store, It took me while, but I knew she was coming. I read what we had written back and forth and had to keep this information in my head. When we met I had to remind myself that this person knew me better than most of my friends at that time so I had to lunge that forward in my brain to react properly. A warm hello and a hug! It's not that I didn't want to, but suddenly someone you had only written to was standing infront of you. Why is it so much easier to say things online? Suddenly when the person is infront of you, you realize they are real and they know you very well.
My friend from out of town is finally back in town. We knew each other a long time ago but didn't really "know" each other. We weren't bff or anything, but we certainly didn't not like each other. In the last year or so we have grown close over myspace, we have had online conversations that I haven't had with other people. And when she showed up to my store it was like my brain froze. Suddenly the things I was saying became real. How do you go from the keyboard to talking? I'm going to find out because she knows so much about me now, and she'll be here for an evening of catching up. I'm excited and yet I wonder if I'll be able to speak as freely about stuff when she's sitting across from me.
It's such a different world with all this technology. I found it so amazing still the other day as I was chatting with two different people that live 5 hours from each other by car. But as I was chatting they were right next to each other. IT makes me sound like a freak, but technology has truely amazed me. Pretty amazing the amounts of people it has brought together. I have several friends that married someone they have met online. Would they have met otherwise? It's a pretty amazing thing.
Well it's a bit incoherent, but I'm so tired I'm not sure what I'm typing anymore. Just going to stop now.
One friend I had never spoken to until she showed up at my store, It took me while, but I knew she was coming. I read what we had written back and forth and had to keep this information in my head. When we met I had to remind myself that this person knew me better than most of my friends at that time so I had to lunge that forward in my brain to react properly. A warm hello and a hug! It's not that I didn't want to, but suddenly someone you had only written to was standing infront of you. Why is it so much easier to say things online? Suddenly when the person is infront of you, you realize they are real and they know you very well.
My friend from out of town is finally back in town. We knew each other a long time ago but didn't really "know" each other. We weren't bff or anything, but we certainly didn't not like each other. In the last year or so we have grown close over myspace, we have had online conversations that I haven't had with other people. And when she showed up to my store it was like my brain froze. Suddenly the things I was saying became real. How do you go from the keyboard to talking? I'm going to find out because she knows so much about me now, and she'll be here for an evening of catching up. I'm excited and yet I wonder if I'll be able to speak as freely about stuff when she's sitting across from me.
It's such a different world with all this technology. I found it so amazing still the other day as I was chatting with two different people that live 5 hours from each other by car. But as I was chatting they were right next to each other. IT makes me sound like a freak, but technology has truely amazed me. Pretty amazing the amounts of people it has brought together. I have several friends that married someone they have met online. Would they have met otherwise? It's a pretty amazing thing.
Well it's a bit incoherent, but I'm so tired I'm not sure what I'm typing anymore. Just going to stop now.
Hi deano!
ReplyDeleteI wanted to say that I just now realized what MCAC meant ;)
Yeah, I'm a little slow on the uptake sometimes!
I'm glad we met and that we talk more now.
Hooray for technology!